Here is an interesting piece on thinking carefully about the expectations we go into marriage and relationships with.
Earlier this year, I left the studio to find that someone had left this note on my car windscreen.
Yes, I am at that age where people ask when I’m getting married and having children. Some seem genuinely concerned for my mental wellbeing (apparantly not being married is supposed to drive a woman to the brink insanity), some express their sympathy that I’m not married yet, while some come up with theories as to why I supposedly haven’t found ‘the one’ and how I can overcome this. Very few people actually take the time to ask me why I have chosen to not get married yet. Few people stop to consider that I have chosen this path for myself and few realise that I am happy with the decisions that I have made.
I am what I call a ‘love optimist’ and I believe strongly in love and commitment. I think marriage is beautiful but I also believe that it must be entered into with love, honesty and unwavering commitment. That I have chosen to not be married is not about fear or, as some would believe, some assertion of my ‘independent woman’ status.
Will I ever get married? I don’t know. I prioritise the honesty, commitment and love in a relationship, whatever context that offers itself in.
Will I ever have children? I don’t know. That is not within my control. Many people hope to have children and never do; many people never plan to have children and yet they do.
What I do know is that love, respect, honesty and commitment are what matter to me. If I have that, I have what is most important to me.
When I saw this at a school in Ntuzuma, I hadn’t seen one of these mats since I was about 10 years old. Actually, we used to make them in craft class when I was in primary school. I’d love to have one for my home
This young man is a proud South African
For me, working on radio is an amazing daily experience. As the host of a weekday talk show, every evening my job is to share that new information with the public.
And every Sunday, on the music show that I host, I get to play music, dance in studio and sing along to the classics for three hours. That is my job. What a blessing.
This photo says exactly how I feel when I’m in studio on Sundays.
These clips tell the story of what’s going on in those headphones.